Misunderstandings can be more common than we realize. I often encounter interactions that I later realize were not what I originally thought they were. I have been humbled lately by finding out that my assumptions were incorrect, and have eaten my foot on more than one occasion.
I have had to rely on God for discipline to keep my mouth quiet until I have asked more questions, or let time pass before I pass judgement. One of my biggest prayers is to have godly conversations. To me, this means having a conversation that I know would be appropriate in front of Jesus. This wraps into keeping my opinions to myself when it’s really not appropriate to share them.
I suffer from giving hasty responses, and I have always acted too quickly. I have a coworker who is longsuffering. At times, to a fault, because sometimes action required immediately. But we balance each other out most of the time in that regard.
In my home, we have misunderstandings. When this occurs, we have hurt feelings, anger, and sometimes shouting. I was compelled to put 3×5 cards around the house at one point with the verse from Proverbs 15:1 that says “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” This verse is full of truth! And if practiced, you see full well that wisdom from the bible is good.
When you talk through a misunderstanding, and give it the name it deserves, instead of malice, neglect, or even intention, your heart has no option but to soften. It’s hard to apologize for your part in a misunderstanding. But when you do, you find that the other party softens as well.
The bible talks a lot about understanding; we are to make an effort to live at peace with one another (Romans 12:18 “If it is possible on your part, live at peace with everyone”.)
